Lesson 7

Hey guys! I wanted to talk today about something that hits very close to home for me! Today we are going to talk about the green monster that is jealousy! I admittedly am a jealous type. Jealousy in my eyes is like a sickness, it turns you against those that you love and it can bring about feelings of self-loathing and a low self-esteem. My problems with jealousy started ever since my very first girlfriend. I caught her cheating on my with another student from our school and I remember having my heart crushed. Since that day I have been very protective of my girlfriends and I am very suspicious. Now many girls might see this as repulsive while other girls are flattered when their boyfriend gets jealous over them.

The reason why jealousy ties into our lesson this week in my family relations class is because we talked about how we can avoid any arguments or any doubts that we are completely faithful to our partner. So I have a girlfriend that lives in Mexico and I met her while I was doing missionary service in the Dominican Republic. She was also doing missionary service and when we both returned home we kept talking. Well one night I was on my way to my dorm when I received a text from her. I had responded to her text about three hours before and she had not responded for all that time. So I asked her where she had gone and told her that I was worried about her. She then went on to tell me that she went out alone with this old friend of hers, a guy that had been very successful. I remember in that moment feeling very offended and betrayed. Now whether or not I had reason to feel offended or not everyone has their own opinion, but for me that was crossing the line, especially because I know she would have been irate with me if I had done the same to her. In that moment I doubted that my girlfriend had remained faithful to me.

In many marriages in this day and age there are many couples that doubt whether their spouses are loyal to them and their are many that are unfaithful. So how can we eliminate these misunderstandings or doubts from coming about. Well the first step is to truly be faithful to your spouse. After the dating period and moving towards the marriage our partner should be the only person in our life that is truly important. Family members are clearly an important part of our lives, but no one should be more important or as important as our spouse. So before we get married we should be willing to make that person the most important part of our lives no matter how hard things may be. If that is so than there shouldn't be anything that jeopardizes the relationship we have with them.

If you find yourself in a similar situation please do your wife or husband the pleasure of eliminating anything that comes between you so that you can start building trust again! This will help to make a functional family full of joy and peace!