Lesson 6

Hey guys, today i want to talk about marriage and the preparation that we can make to become married and some of the problems a newly wed couple can have. I am sure that most of the people that are going to read this probably have more experience than I do on this subject, so I would love to hear your opinions if you are willing to comment!

My two oldest sisters are married and my oldest brother is divorced. Now I mention this because I am going to try to analyze the differences in their marriage and try to give my insight on how a couple can prepare to be married. Starting with my older sister, she is married and has two kids with her husband. They have lived in Florida for a long while now, but one thing that has always affected me about them is that they always fight! Daily they are bickering about something. My next older sister has two kids also with her husband and they live in California. They have a very balanced marriage where arguing is a very rare thing. I don't think that I have heard them argue since they have met. After many hours of wondering what the differences between these two are it seems to me that my oldest sister has a husband that has poor communication skills while my other brother in law is great at communicating his opinion and feelings.

I have thought a lot about marriage and I have found that every time that I look at my oldest sister's marriage the idea of marriage scares me. On the other hand, if I picture my marriage as one similar to the one that my sister has I am pretty excited to get married.

So what is it about communication that is so important? Is it better to beat around the bush and keep things pent up? Or should we express our feelings and thought even though they might upset our spouse?

In my personal opinion it is better to be straight forward and just say what is on your mind rather than keep your spouse guessing. It is odd though; even though I find this approach to be more effective I tend to take the opposite approach because I am scared to hurt anyone's feelings.

How do you guys approach your disagreements with your spouses or partners? do you have any advice that you have found particularly effective?

There will always be complications in a marriage, heck there have always been problems between men and women since we were tiny, but we as a couple are commanded to be one flesh and to suffer with the partner that we choose. So men support your wives and women support your husband and keep going forward together.