Lesson 12

Today we are going to be talking about divorce! Most people now a days believe the famous statistic that has been widely accepted that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Now it was very interesting to me to find out that this statistic isn't actually true. The real divorce rate actually circles about 36%. Divorce isn't as common as everyone thinks and it is actually a very serious action that deserves more thought before it is actually done. Divorce has definitely become more common than it used to be, in fact Mexico has made it necessary to renew your marriage after just 2 years, and if you separate before those two years there is no paperwork required. But just because divorce has become more common does not mean that divorce has become a smarter option.

There are a few interesting things about divorce as re-marriage that should make you think twice about the decision. Most divorces stem from a lack of communication or a lack of willingness to forgive. Between the second and fifth year of a marriage and the birth of a couple first marriage is the most common time for a couple to divorce, but after 7 years the divorce rate significantly decreases. Even after divorce the majority of couples, in fact about 70% admits that their marriage was savable and that they only had to try harder. Now I have had my fair share of regretted decisions, but when it comes to finding and staying with the love of my life i plan on having no regrets. Whatever happens I want to be able to say that I am giving me all to the person that is my all. Remember the affects that divorce will have on your children, and love them enough to stay together. I promise that you will be happier that way!

This will be my last post about my learnings in this class, but I am incredibly grateful for all those that read what I had to say and I hope that I could help you in some way! I know that God is our loving Heavenly Father and that our Lord Jesus Christ lives and loves us! Share the love my friends!!

Lesson 11

Hey guys! Well today we are going to be talking about the something that I though was very interesting this week. Today we are going to talk about so of the do's and do not's of parenting. I think that this topic is very cool.

So in my family my father was always the one who was sent in when we really needed to learn our lesson. When dad came in the room we knew we were in trouble for something. Now some of the punishments that we received were very much deserved, but others weren't. My dad's famous form of torture was putting a whole spoonful of Tabasco in our mouths and making us swallow it. I have not been able to enjoy spicy food ever since! 

Now there are some things that we should never do to punish our kids such as refusing contact and physically hurting our kids. What I found most interesting was that the most effective way to teach our children is to let the consequences of their actions teach them most of the time. There are only three situations where we as parents should intervene. These three situations are when it is too dangerous to let the child experience the consequences, when their decision will affect another person, or when the lesson we want them to learn is too far into the future. More than 80% of lessons can be taught by natural consequences. 

If you are looking for the right way to teach your kids this seems like the easiest and frankly the most sensical way to me!

Lesson 10

Alright guys today we are going to talk about some pretty interesting things! Today we will be talking about fatherhood and finances! Now I know that fatherhood is a topic that is highly debated, some people have fathers that are very much involved in their lives while other people haven't had the displeasure of meeting the father that abandoned them. Either way there is studies on family that show the importance of the father and some of the differences in finances between families with two sources of incomes.

The thing that I found incredibly interesting this week was one study that showed the difference in income for a family where the father and mother are both working full time jobs and paying for childcare. Now as we know that with jobs comes multiple expenses such as transportation and food. Well this study showed that on average families were making less money with two full time jobs than families that only had one of the two parents working. Many may ask how could that be, but it is certain. The costs for childcare alone can stack up quite fast, and the purchase of transportation and gas can evaporate the income from that second job.

As you can imagine mothers that are left alone with their kids, or visa-versa, have an extremely hard time providing for their kids and having to pay those expenses by themselves. Many believe that divorce is the answer when in fact divorce makes their situation much worse than what it once was. over 70% of people that divorce look back at their marriage 7 years later and admit that their marriage was savable. Please, if you are thinking about separating this holy bond, reconsider your options and your priorities and do what is best for your kids. Protect the traditional family, after all it is all that really matters.

Lesson 9

Hello friends! Once again I am very sorry for not posting for this last couple of weeks, my life has been very interesting towards the end of this semester, but to those of you that have read every single one of my posts I thank you because I do put a lot of effort into them.

Well let's dive in! Today we are going to talk about communication! How does communication affect us? What are the most effective types of communication. Well we all know various forms of communication such as verbal, physical and non-verbal. Now many would think that the most important of these three would be the verbal communication seeing as that is the way that we express what we want. Before I reveal the most important of these three I am going to ask a question. How many of you have said that you were fine with doing something when you actually had your heart set on doing something else. Could be a Friday night activity or a board game, but surely we have all done it! Well this is one of the reasons why verbal communication is not as important as other forms of communication. The most effective type of communication is actually the non-verbal communication. Some ways to communicate non-verbally are face expressions, sighs, rolling eyes, stance, these are very important to the communication between us and other people.

I remember as a 12 year old I was not pleasant to be around for some people, my sister can testify of that. I knew when I was getting on her nerves because she would roll her eyes at me and try to ignore me. Whenever this happened I knew I was close to getting her to crack. Thankfully things have gotten better since, but without telling me verbally I knew what she was feeling.

In these exact ways we can discern what our family members need without them saying. This could save us from countless arguments and lead to thousands of smiles and good times. It is very important that we use this skill to read body language and facial expressions to interpret how best to deal with a situation. This is one of the many ways that we can defend our beloved families and take care of the ones that are close to us. Just as God watches over us and knows what we need and delivers we can emulate him and help others and be what they need.