Lesson 3

Hey guys, I just want to share something I learned in the third lesson of my family relations class. I was born and raised in Irvine, California. Southern California is full of great people and awesome beaches. A huge part of the population in southern California is latin. Growing up I always thought that they were a little weird and reclusive, but I failed to take a few things into account. I feel like I am the perfect person to relate to this subject. As long as I can remember I have been attracted to latin girls, my very first girlfriend was Mexican and my current girlfriend is Mexican also. One of my girlfriends from high school was also latin. I used to spend a good amount of time at her house and I always felt like her parents hated me. They said very little to me and whenever I would come over they would quickly work their way upstairs. For the whole 6 months of our relationship the only thing I could say to them was "hola" and "como estás". It was no surprise they didn't fancy my company. Three years have passed and I have since become fluent in Spanish and my view on her parents have completely changed.

I feel like we falsely accuse those that come from other countries for being reclusive or arrogant, but they are facing challenges that we can't even comprehend. Problems that they face are as difficult as becoming accustomed to a new culture, learning and new language and finding new friends. Usually immigrants drift towards people that are more like them. Families can be torn apart by difficult economic situations and difficult culture situations that come with immigrating to another country. Although these factors play a part there is nothing worth risking the family unity that one has. People often convince themselves that they are strong enough to spend a few months apart, or that it will be better for their family eventually. Nothing is worth risking the love you share between your spouse and your family. Look for people in your neighborhood that are in a similar situation and reach out, they can teach you some pretty awesome things and you could be blessed with a lasting friendship! God speed my friends

Lesson 4

This week in class was definitely and interesting one! Today we are going to talk about gender roles fam! I will start this blog with a funny/ interesting story! So when I was a kid I was a very passive and easy going boy, so much in fact that I would let my older sisters dress me up and put make up on me. I hope you can imagine the look on my dad's face when he came home from work to see his little boy running down the stairs in a blue dress and foundation caked on his face.

My question for all of you is if there is anything wrong with a little boy wearing and dress and makeup? And if so, why?

The world in general has always expected two very different things from their baby boys and baby girls. In general we have wanted our boys to be tough, athletic, leaders, and we almost expect them to be less responsible than girls. We expect girls to be more sensitive, loving and observant.

No doubt there will always be outliers, girls will have more masculine tendencies and visa versa. There will always be the little boy that is easy going and lets his sisters dress him up like a princess. The outlier tend to be made fun of and are pushed towards the opposite gender in search of acceptance.

I thought that this pattern in the history of the world was very interesting and I would like to hear your guys' opinions and experiences! I shared an embarrassing experience so this is officially a no judge zone! Share what you want!